Asking a Girl Out Doesn't Need To Be Hard, You Just Need To Know How

Tinder has revolutionized the way that we date. As of 2016, the app had 25 million users, 1.5 million of whom pay for it. There’s a clear demand for the service, and it represents a shift in how people date. Back in the day, we used to meet people first to decide whether we wanted to date them. Today, we’ve flipped this model on its head. We prefer to talk before we have an in-person meeting.

Date the real person, not the person she created using her phone

Starting a proper relationship requires so much more than typing into a chat box. You can’t stay in the chat room forever. If you want to make a real connection with someone, you have to be able to have a face to face meeting.

You can never truly know someone if your communication consists only online messages. People can easily fake their reactions or disguise their intentions through text. Think about how often people type “lol” without laughing out loud. Even worse, some individuals create fake online personas to swindle people.

When you meet someone in person, you can see their facial expressions, pick up on their tone of voice, and get a real sense of who they are. They won’t be as likely to fake a reaction, and you can see their response in real time.

Being physically present with a person is an important part of building a relationship. Having physical interactions can confirm intimacy and attraction. Online dating can involve far too much fantasy. If you spend too much time chatting with a person online, you may build up unreasonable expectations about the person.

The bottom line is, you’re going to have to ask her out. You may feel nervous doing this, but simply asking her for a date is the first step in forming an authentic real-world connection. Asking someone out can seem difficult, but there are a few things that you can do to ensure that you succeed.

1. Pay attention to your conversation

Your instincts about a person and situation can be a powerful indicator of whether it’s time to take the relationship off the screen and into reality. You should have a good feeling about the person before you suggest a meeting.

Have you been talking for a while? Sometimes people go online to look for casual dates. Their attention-span might be short. If you’re interested in having a more serious relationship, you’ll only want to ask someone you’ve been talking to for a while. Having a few conversations online first will help you determine whether it is the right time to ask her out.

If you’re having frequent conversations, you can determine a lot about the other person and choose your moment to ask for a date. If she seems to be hung up on her ex, or some of her responses don’t sit well with you, you may not want to ask her out.

On the other hand, if the girl seems genuinely interested in learning more about you, or if she’s indicated that she’s ready for a serious relationship, your chances of success are higher.1 If you feel like you have a connection with this person, remember to take things slowly. Girls tend to avoid guys who seem insecure or clingy.

Does it seem like she shares some interests with you? If you’ve discussed ethical questions, do you agree with her philosophy. Knowing that you have a few things in common can make the prospect of asking her out less scary. Even if you go on the date and don’t feel a romantic connection, you may still gain a new friend.

2. Ask about her availability before you suggest an activity

You certainly don’t want to be rejected because you suggested an activity that doesn’t appeal to her. Imagine if you ask her to see a movie that she doesn’t want to see. She can just say she’s busy that day, and you may never get the chance to meet.

See if she has some free time first. If she is interested, she will likely offer you some details about her schedule, and you can coordinate.2 Then, if you suggest an activity and she isn’t interested, you can decide on something else together, but the date will still happen.

3. Talk about possible date topics

You might feel like you have no idea what this girl would like to do for a date. Discussing topics that could become dates is a great way to improve your odds. Talking about movies and food are great choices. You can learn a little bit more about her, and you’ll get some hints about the types of things she’s like to do.

When she shows interest in a particular topic, you can use that as a natural lead into asking her out on a date. You might invite her to watch the movie or offer to take her to a restaurant that she likes. This is one of the smoothest ways to ask a girl out.

Imagine that she has gone on at length about how much she loves ice cream. You know that the new Wonder Woman movie will be playing in the theater soon, but you haven’t seen it yet. Ask her if she’s seen it. If she says that she hasn’t, but would like to, then you could say something like, “I haven’t seen the film either, but I’d like to. Would you be interested in going to see it with me?” If she says yes, you can watch the film, and you’ll get brownie points if you take her for ice cream afterward.

4. Make mental notes of things she has mentioned

This is one of the easiest ways to ask a girl out because you can use information that she’s given you to suggest something in which she’s interested. If you do this well, she’ll also see that you are a good listener.

In this case, you can suggest that you both go to a place she’s mentioned before. If she told you that she loves Mexican food from Guadalajara Grill, asking her if she’d like to go there with you isn’t too much of a stretch. In this case, you save yourself some worry because you already know that she likes the place.

You’ll never know if you never ask

Asking someone out can feel intimidating, but if you don’t give it a shot, you’ll be stuck sending her texts until she gets bored and moves on to someone brave enough to meet her in person. Yes, rejections do happen, but wouldn’t you rather be rejected early-on instead of devoting lots of time and energy to someone who isn’t interested in you? If someone rejects you, dust yourself off and find someone else. When one door closes, another one opens.

Stay positive, be yourself, and take the chance to meet the girl in person.

10:50 PM   by Unknown ·   0

Why Making More Friends Only Makes You Even More Lonely!

    Chronic loneliness is a modern-day epidemic, and a sad one at that. We live in such a busy time, and it’s all too common to sacrifice relationships for more work, more money, more stuff. But as a species, humans don’t do well by themselves. We survive best in groups where we can look to others for support and empathy.

Despite the instinctual need for others, the percentage of Americans who say they frequently feel alone is at an all time high. In the 1970s and 1980s, the percentage was around 11% and 20%, respectively. Yet in 2010, the American Association of Retired Persons (AARP) repeated a similar study and the percentage was as high as 45%.1

When feelings of loneliness seem to overwhelm us, the instinctual fix is to make more friends; to socialize. But all this really accomplishes is a more intense realization of loneliness.

Loneliness Exists Even with Physical Company

Feeling alone is not the same as truly being alone. Think about this common situation: in a family gathering, a handful of relatives are sitting at the table with others, but they are scrolling through Facebook on their phone or texting people who are not present. None of the people in this scenario are truly alone, but they do create loneliness. Through being more interested in their phone than physical company, they miss out on true human connection through company.

Another relatable example is patients in hospitals. While these ill people are quite literally surrounded with support, they often feel lonely and forgotten if their relatives do not stop by frequently. Any type of separation, be it literal or emotional makes us (and even animals) feel very alone and cut off.2

In animals, it’s not separating a monkey from any companion, it’s separating them from a preferred companion. When we do that, we see the same effects in those monkeys that we see in humans; they feel lonely.

Connecting Is Easy, Deepening Is Not

Part of the problem with being hyper-social or making new “friends” to fill a void comes from the fact that those connections are actually empty. This is due to how simple it is to connect with new people.

Any time you open an app like Facebook or SnapChat, you’re making connections with people. They could be long-time friends, acquaintances or even strangers, but the attention makes the line blur between true companion and internet stranger. A person can have thousands of friends on Facebook but only truly know 50 of them. The high number doesn’t mean loneliness is an impossibility.

Another trend in the loneliness quick-fix is dating apps. If you need a mood booster or just want someone to compliment you and keep you company, any dating app can do the trick within minutes. There are often no strings attached, but along with being dangerous, this is also emotionally detrimental; while you may not feel alone for the hour you spend with a new person, as soon as they leave (most likely to never be heard from again), you feel even more alone than before.

Promiscuity Is a Loner’s Drug

When you make new friends because of loneliness, you’re being promiscuous. While this word is typically associated with dating a lot or being intimate very casually, the alternate definition is more about being indiscriminate or casual when it comes to who you surround yourself with.

Sure, it can feel good to connect with a lot of people, but new connections don’t always lead to strong relationships. The more shallow relationships you build, the more lonely you feel.

Think back to the last time you realized you were ravenously hungry. You probably raided the pantry and ate whatever you could get your hands on, even if it was pure junk food. Making empty connections to try to fill a void is the same thing; When you’re not being selective about who to connect with, you make plenty of shallow connections.

Beating the Loneliness-Free Addiction

Deep relationships connect people on an intimate level. When you truly connect with someone, you trust them. That trust allows you to exchange thoughts and feelings in order to truly grow as a person.

Shallow relationships, however, make people feel distant because thoughts and feelings are not exchanged and shared. Why would you share intimate thoughts and ideas with someone if you don’t know you can trust them to keep it between you?

Shallow connections lead you back to the original problem – “a separation from a preferred companion”, which leads to loneliness.

It’s a vicious cycle: you feel lonely, you try to meet more people, you connect with even more unsuitable people, and those people leaving you more lonely. It’s why wise people often say they would rather have two really close friends than 20 acquaintances.

So what are you supposed to do? Stop being a friendly person? No.

Stop Aiming for Making More Friends

Aim to connect with a few who you can share your mind with. The goal is to build real relationships on a solid foundation. If you were in love with a diamond bracelet but you couldn’t afford it, wouldn’t it be better to do without than to waste money on a cheap knock off that turned your wrist green? Knock-off friends are no different.

It’s also important to note that friendship and connections with people should be done for you and your happiness, not to impress others or seem popular. Someone can be physically with a lot of people but still feel lonely. It doesn’t matter how many people are impressed by your friend group; if you don’t consider any of those people real friends, you’ve accomplished nothing.

When the people are the right ones, making friends with just a few of them is enough to give you the warmth and connection. When you find yourself physically alone, just sending a quick text to a real friend or two can make you feel better long-term. The real friends are the ones who will make you happy and challenge you to grow.

Find out the types of friends you need here: The Purpose Of Friendship: The Only 4 Types Of Friends You Need In Life

If you’re feeling a little overwhelmed as to how to go about making real connections, start with understanding others’ values to form a deeper connection.The more values you share with each other, the more likely the relationship will be a deep one. Read this article about knowing more about your values: Knowing My Values Has Filled up the Long-Existed Missing Gap in My Life

A Deep Connection Is More Worthwhile Than Hundreds of Shallow Ones

It’s not a bad thing to make friends, it only becomes a problem when you don’t pay attention to who you connect with and those so-called connections are vapid and empty.

Don’t let your “hunger” for going loneliness-free blind you. Be selective about who you connect with. Develop deep connections and ditch the shallow ones. You’re way too good for that anyway.

10:39 PM   by Unknown ·   0

អាថ៌កំបាំងដើមត្របែក(The Secret of Guava Tree)

   ត្របែកជារុក្ខជាតិម្យ៉ាងដែលមានដើមរឹងធំល្មមនិងមានមែកសាខា ដែលប្រជាជនខ្មែរចូលចិត្តដាំវានៅក្បែរៗផ្ទះទុកគ្រាន់ធ្វើជាគ្រឿងម្ជូរសម្រាប់មនុស្សស្រីៗដែលមានផ្ទៃពោះនិងក្មេងស្រីៗឬធ្វើជាបង្អែមផ្លែឈើទុកគ្រាន់ញ៉ាំកំដរមាត់ ប៉ុន្តែវាមានគុណតម្លៃលើសពីនេះទៅទៀត។

មានដូចជា៖

·         ដើម ៖ ដើមត្របែកមានគុណប្រយោជន៍ផ្នែកឱសថដ៏មានប្រសិទ្ធិភាព ដែលសម្រាប់ព្យាបាលជំងឺរាគមួលដោយគ្រាន់តែគ្រាន់តែស្ទួសយកសំបករបស់វាមកដាំទឹកបីយកទឹកមួយ ហើយញ៉ាំតែពីរទៅបីដងប៉ុណ្ណោះនឹងជាសះស្បើយមិនខាន។

·         ស្លឹក ៖ ស្លឹកខ្ចីៗ(ត្រួយ)គឺជាឱសថបូរាណបែបងាយៗក្នុងការព្យាបាលជំងឺរាគរូសឬរាគមួល ដោយគ្រាន់តែយកត្រួយរបស់វាចំនួនប្រាំពីរត្រួយមកទំពារឱ្យម៉ត់ ហើយញ៉ាំជាមួយទឹកជាការស្រេច រីឯស្លឹកចាស់ៗគឺមានគុណប្រយោជន៍ទៅលើការរៀបរណ្ដាប់សម្រាប់ពិធីបុណ្យនៃព្រះពុទ្ធសាសនានិងព្រហ្មញសាសនាផងដែរ។

·         ផ្លែ ៖ ផ្លែខ្ចីមានរសចត់ជាខ្លាំងយើងពុំអាចញ៉ាំបានទេ ប៉ុន្តែនៅពេលវាចាស់ឬស្រគៀលវាជាគ្រឿងម្ជូរដ៏មានឱជារសសម្រាប់មនុស្សស្រីៗ ចំណែកឯផ្លែទុំវិញមានក្លិនក្រអូបឆ្ងុយ គេយកវាមកដាក់ក្នុងបន្ទប់ឬក្នុងឡាន ដើម្បីឱ្យវាបញ្ចេញក្លិនឱ្យក្រអូបញេញបន្ទប់ឬឡាន ម្យ៉ាងទៀតជាជំនួយដល់មនុស្សដែលធំក្លិនក្រោយពេលញ៉ាំគ្រឿងស្រវឹង អាចកាត់បន្ថយក្លិនស្អុយស្រាបាននិងយកមកធ្វើជាបង្អែមផងដែរ ប៉ុន្តែគេមិនយកផ្លែត្របែកមកប្រើក្នុងពិធីអាពាហ៍ពិពាហ៍ទេ ពិសេសគឺក្នុងពិធីហែរជំនូន ព្រោះចាស់ៗពីដើមគិតថាវាមិនល្អទេអាចធ្វើឱ្យគូរស្វាមីភរិយាថ្មីថ្មោងបែកគ្នាក្រោយពេលការហើយ ដោយសាតែឈ្មោះរបស់វាមានពាក្យថាបែកនៅក្នុងហ្នឹង។

ដោយសាតែមានគុណប្រយោជន៍ច្រើនដូចនេះយើងគ្រប់គ្នាគួរតែដាំ១ដើមនៅក្បែរផ្ទះ។

7:57 AM   by Unknown ·   0

អាថ៌កំបាំងដើមននោង (The secret of Luffa Gourd)

   ននោងគឺជារុក្ខជាតិវល្លិ៍មួយប្រភេទដែលប្រជាជនខ្មែរចូលចិត្តដាំនៅក្បែរៗផ្ទះទុកគ្រាន់យកផ្លែរបស់វាធ្វើជាបន្លែជាតៗគ្នាមក។ ប៉ុន្តែននោងមានអត្ថប្រយោជន៍ច្រើនជាងនេះទៅទៀតសម្រាប់ការរស់នៅប្រចាំថ្ងៃរបស់ប្រជាជនខ្មែរយើង។

មានដូចជា៖

·         ដើម ៖ ដើមននោងផ្នែកខាងចុងរបស់វា(ត្រួយ) គេអាចយកមកធ្វើជាបន្លែសម្រាប់ស្លរកកូរបានយ៉ាងឆ្ងាញ់ មួយវិញទៀតគេយកត្រួយរបស់វាហ្នឹងមកធ្វើជាថ្នាំសម្រាប់ព្យាបាលជំងឺសើរស្បែក(រើមតូចៗ) ដោយគ្រាន់តែយកត្រួយហ្នឹងមកច្របាច់ឱ្យម៉ត់ រួចហើយលាយជាមួយម្ស៉ៅសម្រាប់លាបឱ្យទារក បន្ទាប់មកយកមកបិតពីលើកន្លែងដែលកើតរើមនោះតែពីរទៅបីដងបោះណ្ណោះនឹងជាសាសស្បើយជាក់ជាពុំខាន។

·         ស្លឹក ៖ ស្លឹកននោងខ្ចីៗឬចាស់ៗល្មម គេយកមកហាន់ឱ្យល្អិតៗលាយជាមួយកន្ទក់ដើម្បីធ្វើជាចំណីសត្វ រីឯស្លឹកដែលមានព័ណ៌លឿងតិចៗ គេយកវាមកធ្វើជាឱសថសម្រាប់ព្យាបាលជំងឺនោមទាស់ គឺគ្រាន់តែយកស្លឹកននោងជិតទុំទាំងនោះចំនួនមួយក្ដាប់ដៃ យកមកដាំទឹកឱ្យពុះហើយទុកឱ្យត្រជាក់ រួចហើយញ៉ាំតែពីទៅបីដងប៉ុណ្ណោះនឹងជាជាក់មិនខាន។

·         ផ្កា ៖ ផ្កាននោងដែលមិនទាន់រីកគេយកវាមកធ្វើជាបន្លែបានពិសេសគឺសម្រាប់ស្លរកកូរ ដ៏មានឱជារសយ៉ាងឆ្ងាញ់ពិសារ រីឯផ្កាកំពុងរីកវិញគេយកមកធ្វើនំឬធ្វើជានុយសម្រាប់បញ្ឆោតកង្កែប ដើម្បីឱ្យវាមានភាពងាយស្រួលក្នុងការស្ទូច។

·         ផ្លែ ៖ ផ្លែខ្ចីគេយកមកកោសសំបកចេញហើយស្ងោរ ចំហុយ ឬដុតធ្វើជាបន្លែអន្លួកដ៏ឆ្ងាញ់ពិសារ(រសផ្អែម)។ ផ្លែចាស់គេយកមកធ្វើជាឱសថយ៉ាងបានប្រសិទ្ធិភាព ដោយគ្រាន់តែយកននោងចាស់ទាំងនោះមកស្ងោរឬដុតរួចច្របាច់យកទឹកវាញ៉ាំ ដើម្បីព្យាបាលជំងឺនោមទាស់បានយ៉ាងមានប្រសិទ្ធិភាព។ ផ្លែទុំគេបកសំបកខាងក្រៅវាចេញ ដើម្បីយកសាញរបស់វាទុកគ្រាន់ដុសឆ្នាំង រីគ្រាប់របស់វាយកមកធ្វើជាថ្នាំសម្រាប់ជួយប៊ឺតខ្ទុះ គឺគ្រាន់តែយកគ្រាប់របស់វាចំនួនប្រាំពីរគ្រាប់ បកសំបកចេញនិងអង្ករដំណើបចំនួនប្រាំពីរគ្រាប់ដែរ ហើយបុកឬដំឱ្យម៉ត់ រួចដាក់ទឹកឱ្យវាស់មតិចៗមកបិតលើបូសនោះជាកាស្រេច។

ដូចនេះយើងគ្រប់គ្នាគួរតែដាំននោងមួយដើមនៅជិតផ្ទះ។

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Homemade incubator, ទូភ្ញាស់ពងមាន់

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អាថ៌របស់ដើមត្នោត​ (The Secret of Palm Trees)

   ត្នោតគឺជារុក្ខជាតិម្យ៉ាងដែលមានដើមមូលធំខ្ពស់ តែមិនមានមែកទេ។​ ត្នោតគឺជារុក្ខជាតិតំណាងឱ្យជាតិ(ខ្មែរ) និងមានអត្ថប្រយោជន៍ជាច្រើនស្ទើតែរាប់មិនអស់សម្រាប់ប្រជាជនខ្មែរ គឺចាប់តាំងពីឫសរហូតដល់ចុងរបស់វា។

គុណប្រយោជន៍ទាំងនោះរបស់ដើមត្នោតមានដូចជា៖

·         ឫស  ៖ ឫសត្នោតមានគុណប្រយោជន៍ផ្នែកវិជ្ជសាស្រ្តបូរណខ្មែរ ពិសេសឫសទទឹងថ្ងៃ។

·         ដើម ៖ យើងអាចយកប្រយោជន៍បានយ៉ាងច្រើនពីដើមត្នោត ដូចជាធ្វើទូក ក្ដា រនង រនូត រនាប                   ផ្ទោង ផ្លាន វត្ថុអនុស្សាវរីយ៍ និងអ្វីផ្សេងៗជាច្រើនទៀត។

·         ស្លឹក  ៖ យើងយកមកចងឬដេរភ្ជាប់គ្នាមកធ្វើជាកណ្ដប់ ដំរៀបហើយគាបដោយឫស្សីធ្វើជាជញ្ជាំង                   មួកស្លឹកត្នោត(ដែលបង្ហាញពីអត្តសញ្ញាណជាតិផងដែរ) ស្មុក កណ្តំ វត្ថុអនុស្សាវរីយ៍ វេចនំ                     ដុតអប់បំពង់ទឹកត្នោតផ្អែម(ឱ្យមានក្លិនឆ្ងុយម្យ៉ាង) ដុតធ្វើជាក្បុង និងអ្វីផ្សេងៗជាច្រើន                 ទៀត។

·         ផ្កា     ៖ ទាំងផ្កាញីនិងឈ្មោលគេអាចផលិតជាទឹកត្នោតផ្អែមឬជូរបានយ៉ាងមានរសជាតិជាទីពេញ                 ចិត្ត           ជាពិសេសទឹកត្នោតផ្អែមអាចយកទៅចម្រាញ់ឱ្យទៅជាស្ករត្នោតដ៍មានឱជារស​                   មួយវិញទៀតផ្កាឈ្មោលគេយកមកធ្វើជាឱសថបូរាណខ្មែរ។

·         ផ្លែ     ៖ ផ្លែខ្ចី គេយកមកធ្វើជាបន្លែដ៍មានរសជាតិយ៉ាងឆ្ងាញ់ពិសារ។

             ផ្លែចាស់ គេយកសាច់របស់វាមកញ៉ាំឆៅបាន មួយវិទៀតយកមកធ្វើជាបង្អែមយ៉ាងឆ្ងាញ់                     ពិសារផងដែរ។

             ផ្លែទុំ យកមកច្របាច់ជាមួយទឹកនិងលាយអំបិលតិចៗឱ្យគោស៊ីដើម្បីឱ្យគោឆាប់ឡើងសាច់                 ធ្វើជាចាហួយត្នោត ធ្វើជានំត្នោតអង្ករឬនំត្នោតម្ស៉ៅយាងមានឱជារស។

    ​​​​         គ្រាប់ ពេលវាដុះពន្លកចូលទៅក្នុងដី យើងយកគ្រាប់នោះមកពុសដើម្បីយកកំពីង                               របស់វាមកញ៉ាំគ្រាន់កំដរមាត់ ពិសេសក្មេងៗចូលចិត្តណាស់។

·         ធាង  ៖ គាវគឺជាគល់របស់ធាង គេយកមកដំដើម្បីហូតយកសរសៃរបស់វាឬគេហៅថាជក់ មកធ្វើជា                អំបាស(ជក់ត្នោត) វិញជាខ្សែ និងវត្ថុផ្សេងៗទៀត។

·         គម    ៖ ជាផ្នែកខ្ចីរបស់ដើមនៅត្រងករបស់វា ហើយវាជាបន្លែស្រស់មួយប្រភេទយ៉ាងមានឱជារស។

           សរុបមកដើមត្នោតពិតជាមានគុណប្រយោជន៍ដ៏ច្រើនស្ទើតែរាប់មិនអស់សម្រាប់ប្រជាជនខ្មែរ   ដូច្នេះយើងដែលជាប្រជាជនខ្មែរ គួរតែនាំគ្នាថែរក្សាសម្បត្តិដូនតាយើងឱ្យគង់វង់យូរអង្វែងជាដរាប   រាងទៅ។

          

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